The Book

Are you getting to a certain age, and starting to feel the pressure to ‘settle down and have kids’? Do you know that you want a childfree future, but don’t know how to share that with your friends and family? Or are you unsure about which path is right for you?

In A Childfree Happily Ever After, entrepreneur, fur-parent and childfree advocate Tanya Williams dives deep into the reasons why women choose to have, or not to have, children, including the social, cultural and biological factors that influence our decisions.

The book is divided into two parts:

  1. How did we get here
  2. How to make the right choice for you

A Childfree Happy Ever After brings the childfree conversation to life, lifts the veil on how childfree women are treated in society, and shares true stories of women from all walks of life.

If you are childfree or unsure if you want to have children, this book will help you to respond to the judgement, find your voice and make a decision that’s right for you.

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Book Reviews

This is a serious “can’t-put-it-down” read. I finished the book cover-to-cover in two sittings. Tanya writes with such openness and authenticity. She presents her own views with such raw emotion, and complements them beautifully with well-researched and thought-provoking insights. As a woman who is also childfree by choice, I can relate to many of the experiences Tanya shared. I also found it incredibly insightful to read into some history and studies into the topic of people choosing to be child-free. Tanya shares illuminating facts and discerning anecdotes on how society has arrived at a place where so many women are judged or criticised for their decision to remain childfree. What she presents is a brilliantly balanced view on how the conversation should be directed in a more supportive way for women, regardless of their choice in relation to having children. I will certainly be making sure that the young girls who are important to me in my life have their eyes opened by reading this book as they enter their teenage and twenty-something years. As Tanya herself says, it’s all about the big ‘C’ – Choice. And how we should all respect each other’s.

Nikki

As a woman who has chosen not to have children, it’s always been an awkward topic of conversation (especially since my hubby and I got married – the first question is always, ‘so when are you planning to have kids?’). I just assumed that’s the way it was – I’d made an unusual choice and would be defending it for the next decade or so.
Then I read A Childfree Happily Ever After, and I was surprised by how widespread this phenomenon was. It had always been in the back of my mind – an ‘that’s just the way it is’ thing – but this book encouraged me to think critically about the social and cultural forces that are creating this mindset, along with unveiling the phenomenon that being childfree is a more common choice than at any other time in history! For a thought-provoking yet entertaining read (loved Tanya’s sense of humour!), I strongly recommend this book.

Jacqui

Unapologetic. Insightful. Empowering. I absolutely loved reading this book – super easy to read and super insightful. In the Trump era where women’s right to choose is constantly jeopardised, Tanya’s book is a breath of fresh air. It provides a much needed perspective on womanhood and what it means to be childfree. Tanya is unapologetic, insightful in terms of her analysis of social and cultural norms, and totally empowering – a must read!

Aastha

This is an excellent resource for those either tossing up whether or not to have children, or who have already chosen not to, and need a dose of ‘I made the right decision for me’ medicine. I am a mother of three now adult children, but applaud those for whom the parenthood path is not one they would choose for themselves and are brave enough to stare down those who assume happiness comes from motherhood. This is also the sort of book you can read from start to finish, or pick up and put down, reading parts that are pertinent or that resonate

Meggsie

Tanya’s written about a subject almost still taboo across most of the developed world and totally taboo in parts of the rest of the world. We should not be breeding machines – if we don’t want to be. We should not suffer any sort of subjugation, and the pressure to breed or worse, being forced to breed, is a form of subjugation.
Don’t want to take drugs, drink alcohol, eat meat, get married, learn to swim – whatever……..to breed, or not, should be a free and personal choice and no one else’s but the person with the uterus and the ovaries. Well done Tanya! Loved it. Well researched, well written and relevant.

Liz

I bought the book tonight and already up to page 80 – i love it. Its a BRILLIANT book especially when it comes to breaking down the barriers of choice. Especially for us based on our cultural and religion expectations, and how it might be “imprisoning” who we really want to be – from a “woman’s duty” and having children perspective. Tanya discusses this and refers to the Quran too at one point (as well as other religious books) so its a greatly researched book.

Asti

Such a great book Tanya. I love the part that read “Whatever the choices of circumstances of childlessness, the only way to live a meaningful & happy life is to live an authentic life by choosing what is right for you, not living by the measure  of what family, society, media or the church believes is the ‘right’ choice. And the only way one who can make that authentic choice is you”

Childfree Travellers

Tanya has written an amazing book that I’ve had the privilege of reading over the last week. I think that everyone should read this. I am a very happy (if at times a little weary) mother and two and wouldn’t have it any other way, though reading this book was paradigm shifting. I am so happy to know it will be there for my daughter to read when she has to make her life choices. This book has the power to change lives.

Belinda

Such a fantastic book, one which I think every women should read

Sharon

The perfect person to tell our stories with truth, respect and I am sure a little fun, you are fabulous.

Tracey

I just wanted to let you know that I recently read your book, “A Child Free Happily Ever After” on the recommendation of my colleague. I can hardly describe the feeling that your book gave me, other than to say that for the first time, at 28, and in my young, professional life, I feel like my choice not to have children is not something that I need to justify or joke about to make those around me more comfortable. It really is so isolating being a woman who doesn’t want to have children (or really, be around children). Your book made me feel much less alone.

Skye

Hello Tanya – I loved your article ‘The decision to be child free was a choice…..’ I am 61 years old and chose not to have children because when I married my husband I was older (in my late 30’s) and my future husband had two children and a difficult relationship with his ex-wife.  I also work in education – many women in education ask me how I can possibly know how to teach children if I am not a mother.  But thank you for the article – it is an important subject – those who choose not to have children and those who take on other people’s children instead of having their own.

Anon

Your book has changed my life. Sending love from Canada.

Kaitlin

I have the ebook and loved it. Very well written and goes into the conditioning women get and the cultural and social pressures women face.

Leeba

I ADORE you Tanya. You are my biggest role model. I have always known since I was a little kid that the childfree life is the way I should want to live.

Anna

This was awesome! A book providing positive aspects about the choice to be child-free is rare, but this one is definitely a winner. I would give it 10 stars if I could. Thank you, Tanya, for positively portraying a woman in her 30s and above, who is child-free, happy and unashamed of her decision. We need more books like this.

JB

She encourages all women to stand in their own light and be true to themselves. I loved the part of the book where she gave some tips on how to decide if parenthood is the right path for you. It’s a straight forward, clear and authentic read that tells the story of one woman who made the right choice for herself. The part about owning one’s decisions as a woman is also very good for anyone who struggles to make decisions or has a fear of regret. I highly recommend!

Lisa

This is a thoroughly enjoyable read but also well researched and well thought out. I would recommend it to anyone. I hope a paperback edition comes out soon because I’d like to start handing out copies instead of explaining why I’m childfree every time I’m asked. But seriously – this is a great read for people who are childfree but also for those who are thinking about their options or perhaps have children and want to understand what childfree people are all about.

Anna

Fantastic, jammed packed, great statistics and research. Delightfully surprised how much I enjoyed it.
I am ordering a few for gifts.

Raphaele

As a woman who has chosen not to have children, it’s always been an awkward topic of conversation (especially since my hubby and I got married – the first question is always, ‘so when are you planning to have kids?’). I just assumed that’s the way it was – I’d made an unusual choice and would be defending it for the next decade or so.

Then I read A Childfree Happily Ever After, and I was surprised by how widespread this phenomenon was. It had always been in the back of my mind – an ‘that’s just the way it is’ thing – but this book encouraged me to think critically about the social and cultural forces that are creating this mindset, along with unveiling the phenomenon that being childfree is a more common choice than at any other time in history!

For a thought-provoking yet entertaining read (loved Tanya’s sense of humour!), I strongly recommend this book.

Jacqui

Tanya’s written about a subject almost still taboo across most of the developed world and totally taboo in parts of the rest of the world. We should not be breeding machines – if we don’t want to be. We should not suffer any sort of subjugation, and the pressure to breed or worse, being forced to breed, is a form of subjugation.
Don’t want to take drugs, drink alcohol, eat meat, get married, learn to swim – whatever……..to breed, or not, should be a free and personal choice and no one else’s but the person with the uterus and the ovaries. Well done Tanya! Loved it. Well researched, well written and relevant.

Liz